Falling out of LOVE!

"It's weird how you go from being strangers to being friends to being more then friends to being practically strangers again...and it all happens so fast. "

How does it happen? How do you fall out of love with somebody?How does it happen happen with the person whom you loved with all your heart, ? Now you just don't have the love you once had for them. How do you not have the love for that person for whom you were head over heels? What makes your loved one seem like a stranger?It really is weird how you can seem to think that you know a person so well, then things go sour between you and all of a sudden you can't seem to understand or recognize this person at all? How do you fall out of love with someone? My friend Jen said, if you fall out of love with someone, that means you weren't in love with them to begin with. I don't think so. I think that you don't fall out of it but that after time... yes it does change... but it never fully goes away. You still love the person. Its just not romantic anymore, it changes to a platonic kind of love.

But then again everybody assumes that "love" and "being in love" is the same thing.... and its not. I was involved in a very long relationship. We loved each other and knew we wanted it to be forever. I thought I'd marry him and do the white picket fence thing, you know. Big house with white picket fence, puppies and SUV's. It was almost like an obsession, we both had to talk to each other until our phone bills hit the roof and see each other whenever possible and just do sweet things every chance to one up the other. Eventually, things didn't seem to be so great and after months of stress we decided to put the brakes on our relationship and let things cool off for a while. Yes, I still love him and I always will. Am I in love with him? No, I can't say that I am. He hurt me like no other man could and after months of making myself sick over trying to make things right, I just don't have that kind of emotion left in me for him. So yeah, I believe it is very possible to "fall out of love" but if you simply love someone you'll always have that emotion deep down inside. It was there in the beginning and its not going away simply because you're not in a relationship or you disagree with things they said or did. I have struggled with this for years because you can love someone and not be "in love" with them. I really believe that falling in love and being in love are two very different things. People should consider these things before they start professing how deeply they love someone. I try and only use the word when I believe it truly applies. But then there is always a question how do you know who's 'The One'. What is true love? Well, I believe you will just know in your heart when you are in love.
You like a person for his qualities, but you love a person with his shortcomings. Love is in the air when you are willing to lay your life down & stand by that person side to end of time regardless of anything. Love is not at all about "whom one is sleeping with & we have a child together"...there is a more lot to this thing we call love. I believe in that 'Agape Love' - that unconditional love. My happily married sis said there will be rocky battles but we have to stand strong & be able to overcome. Because no matter what its always worth it. True love awaits.